Effects of a Quarrel
April 1, 2012 | Health
To have a quarrel is to angrily argue, disagree, and shout at some other person. In the parental home the effects of a quarrel or continual arguments can have a detrimental on children.
Often quarrels are the result of disagreeing about something quite small and stupid, which when viewed in retrospect was not worth the effort anyway. Frequent quarreling among parents is often due to either parent not fully understanding the other parent’s point of view, or the issue under consideration.
It may be that the parents enjoy quarreling, but they should remember that the effects of a quarrel will be reflected in their children in the following ways –
- Children are sensitive, and will easily become hurt by seeing their parents behaving in such a manner continually, especially if they feel that the quarrel is about something they have innocently done.
- The children will feel insecure, they will not know what to expect next, or if the situation is dangerous. They will not know if Mom and Dad are raging about getting a divorce for example, such will be their degree of insecurity.
- It is not uncommon for children in this type of quarrelsome environment to develop aggressive behavior toward each other and friends; deliberately causing arguments because “that’s what Mom and Dad do!”
- If any child sees that it is one parent in particular who is always starting the quarrel, then there is a high risk a feeling of hatred developing in the child to that parent. This in turn can possibly give reason for more quarrels leading to a division in the family.